You are right that this is a problem.LOOK....this is a serious problem.
Often members disagree. This is a purpose of this board. But members need to be honest and stop assigning to members views they do not hold.
@Martin Marprelate does not understand how the "classic views" of atonement necessitate the Cross. That is fair. But to claim they don't would be dishonesy.
@AustinC does not understand why @Van rejects Pelagianism. That is fair. But to claim he doesn't would be dishonest.
Others do not understand how Reformation Arminianism (@Reynolds position) is not man saving himself. That is fair. But to claim it is self-salvation is dishonest.
Here is how it should go:
"So you believe this?" "No, I don't." "My bad. I can't reconcile your statements."
Here is how it goes on this board:
"You believe this heresy" "No, I strongly reject that heresy" "Well, until I can reconcile your statements or you concede that I am right, you believe thus heresy".
When a member sounds to you like he is affirming something, just ask for clarification. If he tells you that is NOT what he believes, then that is not what he believes.
You do not have to understand the guys beliefs, he does not have to reconcile points for you.
We have a situation on this board where we are allowed to accuse one another of heresy, but not of Semi-Pelagianism. But a moderator then opens a thread entitled Semi-Pelagianism and gives a definition of it but gets all stressed when people start discussing it.
The first thing that needs to be done is to ban the words 'heresy' and 'heretic.' Then doctrines can be discussed without all this blame game.
I write as someone who has been accused of heresy for believing in Reformed Baptist Theology. It doesn't matter; I wear it as a badge of honour, but it does show how people who should know better splash the word around and fail to apologize.