Not everyone has a dramatic "Road to Damascus"- type of event, such as the Apostle Paul experienced. Salvation is ALL of God. It is not for man, such as free-willers, to come up with a way so that man can think he contributes to being saved by walking an aisle or saying a "Sinner's Prayer", and such like; nor does the child of God look at himself five years after being regenerated and say to himself, "Oh, look at how much "better" I am than five years ago."
Away with such prideful thinking! "They measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise." 2 Corinthians 10:12
God's elect declare, "But by the grace of God I am what I am." 1 Corinthians 15:10
The standard is perfect righteousness, and God's elect know that is found only in Christ, not in man's vaunted "self-improvement".
Now, I can already hear the charge. sounding like Gomer Pyle, "Antinomianism! Antinomianism!". God's elect should try to be the best spouse, or the best parent, or the best employer, or the best employee, etc., that they can be. But is it not done for merit, or to make God "happy" with them. It is done out of love for God and what Christ has done for them, not for any proof of salvation.