This is answered here: http://members.aol.com/etb700/ccm.html#subjectivity
Here are some pertinent segments:
This whole criticism of preference or subjectivity I see in the teachings ignores the fact that man is a subjective creature. If that is such sin, then remember, it is due to our fallen nature, and ALL of us have it and have to beware of it coloring even our rejection of things (as well as our choosing things). That's why God gives us His Holy Spirit to guide us in debatable areas not covered in the written Word. But what people are doing is for the sake of denying "subjectivity"; instead of admitting that they feel or think certain music is bad, (since they criticize the modern generation for judging by feelings) they simply say "God says!", even though He has not said it, and then try to read these convictions into His Word as universal commands for all. But this makes it no less subjective...
So you can ask that people not play certain music around you or in church (and perhaps some young people have not respected this), but they do more than that: they say it shouldn't be used anytime, and they try to defile everyone else's conscience with their "knowledge" so people would have to be restricted to only what these critics say is good. Some will cite Paul's statements that he would never eat meat again if it made his brother stumble (1Cor.8:13), and that we shouldn't either (Rom.14:21). Paul is giving us the attitude we should have, and yes, many have failed here. But this is not to be manipulated in order to completely obliterate others' preferences altogether. Else, the person doing this is violating the intent of these scriptures just as much as the supposed "offender". Plus, nobody would be able to do anything, because different people will claim to be "offended" by everything and anything. The people claiming to be "offended" must have a sensible claim. The Bible does not tell us to yield to any teaching that comes up in the Church, for then there would be no way to keep out false doctrine! Paul may have in one place told his readers to yield to those with weak consciences regarding meat, but then in 1 Tim.4:1-5 he condemns those among other things, "commanding to...abstain from meats". Contrasting this with Rom. and 1 Cor. shows that with some it is a legitimate issue of conscience, and with others, it is part of a false system of doctrine. He does not even say "well, since there are some who have legitimate conscience issues, we should still abolish all meat anyway, [as basically, the false teachers happen to be right on that]". In fact, rather than a genuine personal spiritual conviction, it seems in this issue the music critics are bent on stamping out of existence altogether a whole range of music largely because of the culture its elements came from, or because it's not what they are used to, or because they thought any amount of physical pleasure was bad! Is that what Paul suggested we do with meat? No, but it is closer to what the false teachers in 1 Tim. apparently were trying to do. Younger generations questioned this, dismissed it, and then went and did whatever they felt was right. (hence, the argument "God doesn't care about musical styles in the church, and that it's just a matter of personal preference"). Both went about it the wrong way!
And once the youngsters went out and started their own churches, the traditionalists should have had no problem, as they would not have to hear what was sung in those churches. But instead, they continued to denounce the entire contemporary Church just for using the styles, period (whether people were trying to bring it into their congregations or not). Obviously, the traditionalists' motives are questionable, and have damaged their own credibility, so they should not be surprised when the younger crowd doesn't accept their authority as biblical.
