My friend,Martin you are letting your Calvinism control that way you understand scripture. You look at one verse and ignore all that ones that contradict your view. These verses Ephesians 2:8-9, Romans 10:9-10, Romans 10:13 all show that natural man can trust in God and you ignore them. You on one hand say you agree with these verses then on the other hand show that you do not.
When taken in the overall context of Paul's writing we see that while the natural man tends to reject the things of the Spirit of God it does not mean that he can not accept them and in fact God expects man to do so and will be held responsible for not doing so. When you consider that the Holy Spirit convicts man of their sin you have to ask why bother if man can not do anything except wait for God to make him believe.
One cannot simply come to Christ by force of will, nor can we do enough good deeds to earn our way. The only way is to humble ourselves before God and turn to Jesus in faith. We have to admit that we are sinners, this is the work of the Holy Spirit John 16:8. We will be saved on the basis of our faith, Ephesians 2:8 therefore our faith precedes our salvation. This is in contradistinction to Calvinism that says we have to be saved before we are given faith.
Then even as an elder you will be held to a higher standard. When you deny clear scripture and preach such you will be judged for and by your words
I find these discussions almost entirely barren and I would not have entered into this one had you not mentioned my name. I have therefore no intention of involving myself any further. I will only say that I am very conscious of James 3:1 and am therefore extremely careful to follow the Scriptures as the Lord gives me light. I also think that you are confusing Calvin with his evil younger brother, Hypercalvin. I do not believe that anyone is saved before he believes. But 'dead' means dead, not 'a bit poorly.'