That is my biggest hang up with Calvinism. God desires none should perish, yet far more perish than come to repentance. According to Calvinism, God brings about His Soverign will. ?????????......
Yes. If God desired that people perished, or took pleasure in the destruction of the wicked, then we would view God as evil (and rightly so because Scripture testifies to the oppisite). On the other hand, if God has to have his will met in desiring none perish then either all would be saved or God is powerless to accomplish His will (which is also an unbiblical statement).
I desire not to punish my son but in terms of discipline I act against this desire to fill the greater desire that my son will be a man of character.
Calvinism holds that God desires none perish. To this end God loved the world by sending His Son so that those who would believe would be saved. This is a free offer if grace to the human race, all of mankind. Jesus is the proposition for the sins of the whole world (as John Calvin said, all men indiscriminately). I understand there is a form of Calvinism that denies this (I believe you will see this in
@Yeshua1 's position), but there is also a form of free-will theology called Open Theism. It is not right to judge the whole by its extreme version (but both sides here seem to do just that).
Insofar as Calvinism goes, you seem to be arguing what you think it denies (and what some do, in fact, erroneously deny) rather than what it affirms. I think this may be due to Calvinism as it focuses on God and the Church rather than those who will not believe.
Sometimes men grasp one truth and, as Spurgeon noted when he referred to these as "narrow minded" Calvinists, can see nothing else. If they hold firmly to the gospel we can argue against what they miss but we shouldn't be too harsh. Perhaps this is all they are capable of doing.