"The wonder of God's mercy and grace is NOT that He doesn't save everyone; it is that He even saves ANYONE!"
This is the very essence of what I believe, even as a non-Calvinist. God is not in any way morally obligated to save anyone because we deserve it. Again, this is a point upon which we can all agree.
However, God has obligated Himself, both morally and judicially, to save whosoever will come (believe). Not because they deserve it, but because He sent forth His Son to be a propitiation for sins of whole world, which is to be applied only through faith. His universal call to "every creature" to faith and repentance obligates him to save whosoever repents and believes. The doctrine that teaches that God only grants this ability to willingly repent and believe to a select few while appearing to call "every creature" is what causes the non-Calvinists to cry, "Foul!"
I don't believe the Calvinistic view of God is unjust because he condemns certain people to hell. I believe the Calvinistic view of God is unjust because He offers a pardon to all mankind while only granted a few of them the ability to receive it, all the while expressing a desire for all to come to repentance and a frustration for those who remain unwilling.
It is deceptive to offer someone a gift you fully know they cannot willingly receive. Especially if you, the giver, are the one who determines the receivers natural abilities. That type of offer cannot be geniune!
jesus death uon the Cross was a propiation in full for the whole World, but its effectual basis is applied ONLY to those who will do his requirement to appropiate for themselves... those who palce their faith and trust in jesus Christ, and in him alone...
Problem here is that N

NE can come to jesus on their own, as weare ALL like sheep gone astry from the Shepherd of our souls...
God has to 'step in" to this situation and enable us to actually be able to respond in faith to His message..
We say that he does this by individually electing out those whom He chooses to have favor on, to quicken them and enable them to place faith in Christ, and NONE so elected shall fail to do that, ALL whom he chosen to receive Christ shall indeed...
You would say that God grants "universal grace" to all to have chance to repent and believe in Jesus, but still WE decide to accept jesus or not... Chance All, some. none will become saved...
still seemds that there is the case of us decidiing our own fates, God did all that He could do, and waits on us to make "right choices!"