God chastises or disciplines His own children --not everyone outside the family of God.
So, perhaps some do not look at the rebuke one has for sinful living, and ultimately the hell, and the lake of fire as chastisement.
Did God not send Jonah to Nineveh? Why? Was there in that city those that were "outside the family of God?" Or what of Babylon? What of Jerusalem, Sodom, Gomorrah, Jerico, Ai, Egypt?
God often brought chastisement upon those that were "outside the family" throughout the Scriptures.
God loves the elect before they are made regenerate. But for those who remain in their repobate state He does not love them. One who lives a life never fearing God? Then God's love is not in them.
Scripture please.
You are assuming that God doesn't love whom He demands believers to love.
I looked through the book of Acts and found many expressions such as "God-fearing Jews" --"God-fearing Gentiles" --"God-fearing Greeks" "God-fearing women" "God-fearing man". No, those outside of God all their lives are not loved of God.
So, because you didn't find it, then the demand by Christ to "love your enemies" is invalidated?
It is beyond question that those whom the Lord is said to not know are not loved by God. To know is an intimacy. Those who are not so regarded by the Lord are hated by God.
Here is a difficulty in what you present.
If one holds as value the statement above, then it in some respect diminishes the authority of God to intimately be acquainted with even the thoughts of a person before they are even thought, and every motive and agenda of all the Creation. He would have some how missed that Satan had iniquity in the heart, for he would have not known because God (according to you) doesn't love outside of His family.
I remind you that embrace the Doctrines of Grace, but in a modified form. This is one of the areas in which I consider that the fore folks got it wrong because (as was with some) the times they lived were as reactionary as could ever be found. So some statements of belief must be a product of the times and yet there are those theologians who would attempt to bring such into application irregardless of the truth and in direct opposition to the Scriptures.
This is why though I embrace the Doctrines of Grace, I also am unashamed to say that I do so in a modified form. I take Scriptures at face value. When the Scriptures say, God is Love, then God is love. When the Scriptures say, love your enemies, then the God in heaven must certainly love His enemies, too.
One cannot cling to some human construction that violates the core of the personality of God, and expect that construction to be correct.
You say He provided a place for them. I had to laugh (and still am laughing). No, He doesn't love them. He hates them as much as He hates Satan and his demons.
Satan is the father of all lies. There is judgment prepared for Satan and all of his. Would you show scripture that God hates Satan? Does not God's love provided justice and truth, and in justice and truth certainly God provided a place for those that follow the father of lies and the father of lies?
Such does not diminish the love of God, but shows that character of love that must also extend through the believer when He expressed we are to love our enemies. Therefore, the believer can resolutely show care and concern (even love) and yet understand that sinful behavior has consequences. That the enemy, though loved, will suffer.
Does God require us to be jealous? God is jealous, but His jealousy is entirely pure.
God revels in His glory. Does God require us to have ourselves as the first priority in our lives? Of course not. But God thinks of Himself first and foremost --He is self-centered in the most appropriate sense of the term. He can't requre that of ourselves.
That God is a jealous God is towards folks placing idols made of creation above Him. It is not that God is "self-centered." God wants folks to place Him in the appropriate relationship to all the creation - as the creator. That is not "self-centered."
God has loved us when we were still enemies with Him. but Scripture doesn't say He has love for every single person who is his enemy throughout their lifetime.
Then you make Christ a liar, by requiring of believers what God does not do, Himself.
There are many verses in Scripture stating that God hates some people. Therefore He does not love all.
Really? Perhaps you should list some. And then prove that believers should not love when Christ states that we are to love - even our enemies.
"Jacob I loved, Esau I hated." is showing that God placed the younger over the older, not that God despised in the manner of hate some would assign. Some would assign hate as detest, rather the word "hate" can also mean "love less." I hate liver, and love steak. It isn't that I "detest" liver, but that in comparison to steak, there is little favor shown.
Jacob I loved, and Esau I loved less" is just as accurate a translation.
As a scholar, you should know this.
John Owen (1616-1683) "We deny that all mankind are the object of that love of God."
Herman Witsius (1636-1708) "He therefore separates from himself, and from his chosen people, all he cannot make partakers of his favour; and so he cannot but inflict upon them that punishment which is the effect of his hatred."
Robert Haldane (1754-1842) "Nothing, then, is said of Esau but that might not be said of every man who shall finally perish."
You can quote old dead theologians until the sun goes down. But that doesn't change the facts.
"God is love" Christ said, "Love your enemies..."
Therefore, it is expected that the believer as an emulation of God is to follow the righteousness of God and love whom He loves - even the enemies.
Until you can demonstrate either God requiring something of the believer that He does not require of Himself, or that Christ lied, was saying what He said, or in some manner discredit what He said, then it remains that the character of God is Love and that He loves even His enemies and believers are to emulate that character.