You are right. I never tell people Jesus died for them because I have no idea if he did. That presents no problem in sharing the gospel with people.
Don't you find this problematic at all, even in the slightest?
Let's break it down to actually get to conclusions -
1. If you can't tell people Jesus's sacrifice on the cross is an offer to them, particularly and specifically, for redemption so they repent and live - then from Rom 5:8, you cannot tell anyone that God offered His Son because He loved them - yes? At least not until they are numbered with the elect
after believing.
2. But you do realize that the believing happens with me knowing with certainty that God
has loved me and that Christ
has died for me while I
am still a sinner enemy of God, right? If I don't hear this meant in the Gospel, irrespective of your verbal gymnastics, I cannot believe - for what could I potentially believe into, if that isn't a reality?
3. So, even for the elect to believe, shouldn't the Gospel message really carry with it the meaning that God does love them particularly and Jesus really did die for them individually - so that they can hear and believe by the power of the Gospel? And if so, when this same message is preached to the non-elect - doesn't it amount to a lie as per calvinism?
4. Also, having meant that the world is not each person on it so that John 3:16 becomes qualified, how do you interpret what I see as love towards the non-elect in Matt 23:37 desiring to gather them as chickens under the wings?
Those individuals who repent and believe will be saved.
Why does God even desire the non-elect to repent and live (Eze 33:11) in the first place?
Not really, no.