Originally posted by Helen:
God will not violate their free choice.
That statement defies scripture- both declarations and examples in the sense that you seem to intend it.
For instance, God violated Paul's free choice. He had freely chosen to go persecute Christians in Damascus... God had a different plan.
God didn't offer Mary a choice... nor Elizabeth, Moses, Job, Abraham, etc, etc, etc.
But in reality, God doesn't violate "free choice". He allows the unregenerate to continue in their "free choice" all the way to destruction. He frees from sin bondage/gives sight to see/changes the spiritual nature of the regenerate... resulting in the very natural expression of their "free choice" to be acceptance of Christ as Savior.
But He will respond to prayers for the person. That may set up others in their lives to work with them, it may set up circumstances to encourage them toward the truth -- all I know is that prayer is efficaceous.
If those things are true then you are basically saying that God is in control of the circumstances that result in someone's salvation... meaning He has very much violated their "free choice" and that of those for whom He doesn't manipulate circumstances favorably.
It may change my heart toward the person and show me a different way of approach...
Are you saying that people reject the gospel because we don't rationalize it properly to them? That we bear responsibility? That their salvation depends on our fallible abilities?
Those seem to be the implications of your statement.
Whereas, with Calvinism, all is decided and God has already determined everything and so this is where prayer means what?
It means we've obeyed. Perhaps God honored these prayers from eternity past since prayer is also a sanctifying work of the Holy Spirit within us.
I don't think you are an open theist... at least I hope not. So in one way or another, either passively or actively, God foreknows what will happen, who will be saved, and what our prayers will be.
I believe that God both allows things to come to past and causes things to come to past... because that is what scripture appears to say. Salvation, like creation or the ordaining of a life, is one of the things that scripture seems to indicate God causes and performs in the man. Sin and rejection of the gospel are things He allows.
I can't see that any true Calvinist would pray for anything, for all is already determined by God.
I just explained that... but I don't believe that God predetermines all and am pretty sure that many other calvinists here don't either. For instance, God does not author sin.
God allows things and He causes things.
I believe that spiritual resurrection is every bit as much a miracle as physical resurrection. Only God has power to effect miracles. Regeneration is the changing of one's nature from something it isn't to something wholly new and previously unknown. (Known in the sense of truly, intimately known and not just an accounting of certain details.)
The question does boil down to whether man possesses the goodness in himself and moreover whether the true nature of the power of salvation is natural or supernatural.