On the occasion of Jesus' first miracle the Lord does not use the word, 'mother' which is the Greek word, {maytare} but the word, 'woman' which is the Greek word, {goonay}. The reason is that our Lord though very respectful to his mother, knowingly sets Himself apart from her being. It is God in the flesh Who commands the filling of the waterpots. It is the Son of God Who says, 'Draw out now and bear unto the governor of the feast.' Verse eleven of John chapter two indicates the purpose of the miracle; it was so that Jesus could manifest His great glory and Divine power. It was at this event that the disciples believed on Him. Mary is merely part of the entourage on the occasion of the wedding.
In Matthew 12:46-50 Jesus distances Himself from the mother of our Lord when He indicates that all the older women were His mothers, and the younger unmarried women were His sisters, and the men who loved Jesus were called His brothers.
I looked up this latter passage, in Matthew, and this is what Dr. Homer A. Kent, Jr., Th.D. Professor of New Testament and Greek had to say about this passage. He is professor at Grace Theological Seminary, Winona Lake, Indiana.
'The spiritual relationship between Christ and believers is closer than the closest of blood ties. This saying offered no disrespect to Mary, nor to his brothers, for at a later time we find them sharing this spiritual relation (Acts 1:14). Yet neither is there any suggestion that the mother of Jesus had special access to His Presence.'
This above paragraph is taken from "The Wycliffe Bible Commentary" Moody Press, p. 951. Editors: Charles F. Pfeiffer & Everett F. Harrison. Dr. Pfeiffer Th.M., Ph.D. is Professor of Old Testament, Gordon Divinity School, Beverly Farms, Massachusetts. Dr. Harrison, Th.D., Ph.D., Professor of New Testament at Fuller Theological Seminary, Pasadena, California.
The elevation of Mary in some religious thinking is not documented in any of the books of the Bible. Nevertheless, we are eternally grateful to Mary for giving to us God's only begotten Son Jesus Christ. Was He not the one who transformed the water into wine?