Reality is that you have more in common with her that I do. Your determinism is inline with the JW's, Mormons, Islam. Calvin’s God and Islam’s Allah are both bereft of unconditional love for everyone.
Arthur W. Pink {Calvinist} has written in contention to the notion that God loves everyone.
"When we say that God is sovereign in the exercise of His love, we mean that He loves whom he chooses. God does not love everybody"
Even your TULIP that you all support shows that your version of God does not love everyone contrary to what the bible tells us. God desires all to be saved 1Ti 2:3-4 but not under Calvinism.
The Gospel call in Calvinism is not a well meant call or sincere offer. Only those that are included in the Unconditional Election will partake of the Limited Atonement and will be drawn to God by His Irresistible Grace. So all men do not have an equal chance to know or trust in God. Your own theology precludes this, but you just do not want to acknowledge that fact.
Calvinist theology has made the good faith offer of salvation moot. If, according to Calvinism, you are not part of this select group then you are doomed form the start. God, according to Calvinism, is more glorified by unconditionally choosing to save some and damning others than He would be by determining all to accept salvation. Such claims make a shambles of both the claim that God is love and His character.