I cannot help what offends you. But friend you are not reading from the word of God when you proclaim that the reconciliation through Christ can be undone.
Neither are you reading from the word of God when you differentiate what is needed for salvation of a Jew in contrast to what is needed for a Gentile.
All this is not a game to God that we must figure out how we can justify the only eternal Holy being in our universe.
Your post disregards the fact that Jesus was speaking to a Jew when he discussed the need for being born again, I pointed this out.
In fact, I only did this after you first stated your beliefs were Spirit inspired, [an insinuation that mine were not]. You are correct, both of us cannot be right. Despite this you explain to me in the best intellectual capacity the mind of man possesses how our Lord and Savior can declare what He gives to be eternal life yet it can be lost, these are two inconsistent concepts and you will never make them compatible.
I have spoken to you about the perfect love of God having no fear; to fear losing that which is not even yours or mine but a gift and an eternal one, is far from perfect love.
You and I disagree, we each know this truth. As a result of each of our preconceived notions regarding what debate is we continually [though not always] but heads because we focus on the position and not the issues leading to that position.
You say the gift of eternal life is by Grace, but you also say that we can't have if we don't have faith. I say eternal life is by Grace and that we cannot have it until God gives us faith.
In your view it can be lost because it is something you found along the way and picked up a possession you acquired for yourself by your faith.
In my view it is something I cannot lose because I did not find it along the way, it was given me by the Holy Spirit and because it is based not upon anything I can, will or even wanted to do before I received it, it cannot be harmed by anything I do, don't or won't thereafter. It is based completely upon the Work of Christ who through the eternal spirit offered Himself.
From beginning to end it is of an eternal nature and no less. Can I add another minute to my life, another hair to my head, or can I take either away? No, why not, because even these are bounded by God and they cannot pass the bound he has set for them. Can I add to myself faith when I have none? No. Can I add to my faith when I have it? yes through obedience, yet even this is by Grace. Can I remove from my faith? No. Cast me into the ditch, wollow me in the mud, remove all my kin, friends and possessions and I remain what God has declared me.
Again, do all that is in me to do morally, can this change what God has declared me? No. Nothing I do, say, or omit will make me anything God has not written of me. To say more is to say man is greater than God.
If that is offensive to you I am sorry, I do not wish to offend you, but I will not cease to speak what I believe because it is offensive to someone who tells me they can choose, but refuses to choose to not be offended. That is a choice that as a child of God each of us can make and should practice making more often.
Now I am finished with this post. I suspect because of its length you have chosen not to read it in its entirety, that is your choice, you are free to make it.
But please do not let me offend you; there are people claiming the name of Christ wishing to remain in the sin of abomination to the Lord and this would be a more righteous indignation for you and I each to pursue.
BTW, the Bible is God Breathed, it is written 'by' the hand of men, but not filtered through the social or cultural biases of men, it is the word of God, or it is nothing more than what I have written above.
God Bless
Bro. Dallas