A wise pastor found a middle aged man had started coming to his Bible study on Wed. nights. This guy rode a motocycle, dressed in jeans with holes in the knees and wore long sleeve flannel shirts over a tee shirt no matter how warm the weather... and a finely made leather jacket. He would also smoke cigars on the church grounds and even leave during the Bible study to take a smoke break. This attendee was not well groomed: Dirty and smelly. Yes he had an unkempt beard and his long hair never looked combed.... but that later can be explained because of the tobaggan and the bike helmet which he wore. He attended these Bible studies and would take any opportunity to turn the discussion onto the rightness or wrongness of receiving a person whom he would then describe and it appeared he was describing himself. The wise pastor asked him questions about this 'hypothetical' person: Questions like 'does this person have a place with running water where he can bathe?' 'can this person shop for himself or visit the thrift stores?' or 'is he in need of money?' 'is there a reason this person can't do any better?' The man answered yes to the first two questions and no to the last two.... and then turned and asked the good pastor 'why are you asking these questions? What does that have to do with going to church and being received by others in church?' And the pastor replied 'I was just asking to see if he knew better. And if he knows better then he has noone else to blame.' The wisdom I observed in this pastor.... he did not confront directly... although there are times when this is necessary ....... and neither did he attack this person for his own appearance..... but he did bring him around to thinking on his own appearance and establishing that he knew he could do better.
I've heard preaching on appearance and dress which was so specific, one could look around and tell the pastor was specifically speaking to a few in the congregation. If they had been dirty and smelly and vulgar in dress.... ???? but they weren't. They were more casual, clean and neat, and maybe the ladies wore slacks and the men blue jeans.... but they were clean.... and they were attentive and participated in the worship and followed the direction of leadership. A closer relationship before preaching this sermon, and the pastor might have learned what many in the congregation already knew, that these folks had a very frugal budget but were generous in their giving what they could and more generous in helping folks in need by giving of their time and labor asking little or nothing in return: Their lifestyle was very plain and basic and their choice of modest wardrobe was more iin the direction of material which would hold up through work and much wear before discarding. (In this regard.... I've had jeans which last for years, and dress slacks or dresses which look fine.... but get a snag or pulled thread over nothing.)
It was funny: When I visited a Pentacostal church meeting at the invite of a friend. The pastor was preaching.... and may have brought a gospel message ..... but so much of the focus was on the sinfulness of t.v. in the home (set nothing evil before my eye) and the wearing of jewerly and the length of hair in both men and women (my hair was short and I had a simple ring on my finger) and makeup (I had a touch of blush on my lips.... nothing bright). The sermon was so much on appearance that I could not help but be distracted by observing those around me. Many of the young women look anorexic and wore delicate heels and lace or net stockings or shoes with fancy bows, sparkles, or ribbons which tie up their legs. The dresses worn were of modest length.... from below the knee to mid-calf, but the waist and the bodice well formed to not only flatter but emphasize form, and many with ruffles or lace, or sheer and filmy (with the appropriate underlining) and the hair was intricately amassed in curls and braids and piled ontop of the head..... and the shorter ends which were curled around the face or above the brow were a clear indication that there was some cutting of the hair. There were very few wedding rings worn but that didn't keep the ladies from wearing ribbons around their wrist or neck or the men from wearing neck ties. I don't fault them for their choice of dress.... but I could not help but feel a certain amusement at the uniformity of certain values in appearance and their neglect of other values: While the dress could be said to be 'modest' still there was such adornment that it could still be considered seductive. While the hair might be long.... still there was a fancy way of fixing it which goes beyond the simple. No, I can't truthfully say that I had an attitude of reverence because the sermon carried my attention away from focus on God as the message directed more to appearance. I could not help but reflect on the cup of the Pharisees being clean on the outside and God knowing what lies within.
One of the neatest and brief messages I ever heard on dress came from a gentleman who stood in casual and unaffected dress to give a testimony of praise in which, among other things, he included his new clothes which he was wearing that night for the first time. He knew he would also be wearing them for work clothes.... but, as they were new, he wanted to wear them first before the Lord, before he wore them casually at work.
But, in all of this, somehow the meaning of 'reverence' seems to become excessively associated with dress ............when it has to do with an attitude of awe and respect and a realization that we're in the presence of the Lord. And, unfortunately, the presence of the Lord seems to be associated with a building and an address rather than a conciousness of the indwelling of the holy spirit within our own temple and can be reflected in each opportunity we fellowship with other believers or share the word of God.