I sympathize with your feelings, Scarlett.
It's part of the reason I no longer "go to church", but simply find another believer in Christ and fellowship with them quietly on the weekends.
It keeps things simple and manageable, and knowing what I do about our flesh and its desire to war with everything, I avoid groups and in-person complications as much as possible.
I see the way things go on this forum in the middle of the disagreements, and I'm very disheartened myself.
But sitting behind a keyboard makes it far more manageable.
Behind a keyboard, I can get up and walk away for weeks, if I like.
In the local church setting, I can't do that and have meaningful fellowship with others at the same time.
So, rather than waiting for the inevitable disagreements many years ago when I came to some important observations about Scripture, I simply made the decision to vanish and let the people who I knew would continually like to argue with ( and even ridicule ) me about my beliefs and convictions, move on with their lives... while I never again graced theirs for any reason whatsoever.
I left knowing full well that if I ever saw them again, their treatment of me would never be any different than it would have been had I given things a chance to "work themselves out".
It's a lot like this forum...
There are people here that will never change, no matter what Scriptures about Christian conduct are put in front of them...
Then there are some that do take Scriptural correction about their behavior, and they do so repentantly.
But I take heart that there is one very useful difference between in-person and a place like this...
With
this forum I can use the "ignore" feature and still come to the same place and comment on things with people who
don't want to always fight with me, and I don't have to see the comments of people who only reply to me because they're interested in a fight.
I can't do that with a group of people in person.
I wish you well.
