strapless dresses

[JamesL]

I'll be honest here, unlike others here. I'm a man, I have checked out women, I'm not so insecure as to be afraid to admit it or act like it will never happen again.

So what is interesting with that and your statement in mind, is that quite awhile back, I saw an incredibly gorgeous 20-something AMISH girl. Yes, she had the whole head covering and everything on. Super cute, and the long traditional attire simply couldn't hide the fact that she had a near perfect frame. It was hard to look away to be honest, especially considering the situation, just never would have ever expected that.

And here you are blaming the women for it? Are you going to look down on them for having nice genetics too? Maybe they should all start guzzling a six-pack of Coke every day so they'll be too fat? Some women look nice no matter what they wear, and men will notice. Blaming them somehow or another because you or someone else did notice is quite ridiculous and is literally on the same level as men in Muslim countries, that is exactly what they do.

Hear, Hear !!

That's exactly what I was getting at when I said that if a girl isn't very attractive to begin with, she ain't gonna make anybody drool over her strapless, backless, or anything else.

It's not the amount of clothes she's wearing, or lack thereof. If she's 150 pounds overweight, most boys would rather she cover up.

But if she's drop dead gorgeous, slim, fit, it doesn't matter if she's wearing a strapless gown, a burka, or even a gunny sack.

Guys are attracted to bodily form and facial beauty. And personally, I have never leered at a girl's shoulders.

It doesn't have a thing at all to do with what kind of clothing she's in. One of the most beautiful sights I've ever seen is Shania Twain in the video "From This Moment On"

And in all honesty, as soon as she drops the wrap and is in a very form-fitting gown, it loses almost all appeal

 

[corndogggy]

Hear, Hear !!

That's exactly what I was getting at when I said that if a girl isn't very attractive to begin with, she ain't gonna make anybody drool over her strapless, backless, or anything else.

It's not the amount of clothes she's wearing, or lack thereof. If she's 150 pounds overweight, most boys would rather she cover up.

But if she's drop dead gorgeous, slim, fit, it doesn't matter if she's wearing a strapless gown, a burka, or even a gunny sack.

Guys are attracted to bodily form and facial beauty. And personally, I have never leered at a girl's shoulders.

That's what I don't get with this conversation. I am much more apt to catch myself lusting over a modestly dressed skinny girl with nice hair and a nice smile and feminine and shy demeanor than any of these fat chicks with their jiggly things hanging out and what they think is a sexy attitude. They can arch their back, flip their hair, and pose with their little duck face weird smile with little clothing on all they want, but I'm just going to subconsciously ignore it and notice the dorky girl who has some class instead. As an example that most people would recognize, think Miley Cyrus and the Nicki Minaj type vs. Taylor Swift and Emma Watson. If Taylor and Emma acted and dressed like them it would be a huge turn-off. So, in my opinion questions like this thread is much less about whether something attracts men and more about whether something makes you look like a piece of trash to everyone.

 

[Aaron]

It's not the amount of clothes she's wearing, or lack thereof. If she's 150 pounds overweight, most boys would rather she cover up.

Heck yeah.

But if she's drop dead gorgeous, slim, fit, . . .

then the wives would rather she cover up.

 

[Aaron]

It mattered for Adam and Eve, and though society said fig leaves, God said animal skins.

 

[corndogggy]

It mattered for Adam and Eve

Technically it didn't, until Satan told them it was bad. Once they covered themselves, God was like, what are you doing and who told you that? Think about it.

 

[Aaron]

Satan told them it was bad.

Chapter and verse?

 

[Salty]

Gen 3:7
And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons.

 

[Aaron]

I don't see in there that Satan told them they were naked. Could you point that out?

 

[thisnumbersdisconnected]

I don't see in there that Satan told them they were naked. Could you point that out?

I see an indirect communication there. He told them God was withholding something from them. Satan promised them enlightenment by eating the fruit. Instead they found a sickening feeling of guilt and shame at having directly disobeyed God's command.

 

[Gina B]

That seems too far. I can see how the look is pretty and how some carry it off with class, but aside from occasionally going "oh that's pretty" at a model in a wedding dress or such, I can't see it as okay. It doesn't settle right as being okay. Just that nagging feeling, though I tried before to feel right with it.

 

[Zaac]

That seems too far. I can see how the look is pretty and how some carry it off with class, but aside from occasionally going "oh that's pretty" at a model in a wedding dress or such, I can't see it as okay. It doesn't settle right as being okay. Just that nagging feeling, though I tried before to feel right with it.

And that's it right there Gina. I think folks can talk around it all they want. But in the quiet whisper of the night, the Holy Spirit tells them that this is not the way for that which is HOLY to be displayed.

 

[evenifigoalone]

If it is your conviction that it is wrong, then by all means stick to it. I just don't get the same vibe/feeling on this issue. *shrug*

 

[abcgrad94]

That seems too far. I can see how the look is pretty and how some carry it off with class, but aside from occasionally going "oh that's pretty" at a model in a wedding dress or such, I can't see it as okay. It doesn't settle right as being okay. Just that nagging feeling, though I tried before to feel right with it.

Thanks for your candid reply, Gina. This is exactly where I'm at with it. But in my case, I don't know that it IS the Holy Spirit or just the legalistic way I was brought up. For years I was scared to read anything but the KJV or go to movies because of the same uncomfortable feeling.

That's one reason why I asked here at BB about the issue. In a multitude of counselors there is safety. . .

 

[Salty]

If it is your conviction that it is wrong, then by all means stick to it. I just don't get the same vibe/feeling on this issue. *shrug*

But keep in mind - make sure it is YOUR conviction - not a "conviction" someone else told you that you believe.
And YOU should be able to back it up it with Scripture.

 

[thisnumbersdisconnected]

I submit that this thread is long past the point of having fulfilled the requirements of the Dead Horse Theory.

 

[evenifigoalone]

Well to the OP, I hope the debate/infighting between some members wasn't too much of an annoyance.:laugh: And if so, though I participated in debating I tried to not contribute to the fighting part.

 

[abcgrad94]

Well to the OP, I hope the debate/infighting between some members wasn't too much of an annoyance.:laugh: And if so, though I participated in debating I tried to not contribute to the fighting part.

Quest, this is actually pretty tame compared to some of the debates we've had here concerning women wearing pants.

 

[Thousand Hills]

Quest, this is actually pretty tame compared to some of the debates we've had here concerning women wearing pants.

I must have missed those, should I start a new thread, possibly with a poll :applause: