To make the analogy work it would have to be that for some reason only you could deal with the grocer in order to obtain the groceries. Your wife was unable to do this. When you get home she partakes of the groceries because she is married to you and in unity with you. Her unity with you makes her a participant with you in your act of going to the grocery store.
You ere when you try to act as if a belief in the concept of the necessity of "being crucified with Christ" is some type of opposition or contradiction to penal substitution. Owen discusses being crucified with Christ 47 times in his works. MacArthur lists the concept of being crucified with Christ as central in all his books on importance of the lordship of Christ. The idea of us dying with Christ was not missed by the reformers or for that matter any Bible teacher I know of. What I don't understand is you and
@JonC having such an aversion to penal substitution, which is also taught.
Correct - just as I go to the grocery store with my wife, but I have something she does not have, so also Jesus dies with us, but he has something we do not have - innocence and obedience.
it is exactly how Luke lays it out in his gospel with the penitent criminal: “we are under the same sentence of condemnation, but me justly, and Jesus unjustly.” The logic is not “in my place condemned he stood.” It really is right there in the text.
Jesus’ death is not unique in that he dies, for we all die, are called to die with Christ, and in fact are already dead in sin. Jesus’ death is not unique in that he is crucified - for we are called to take up our cross and follow him. Jesus’ death is unique in that he alone dies unjustly as a perfectly innocent party, and so justice demands the reversal of his unjust death through the resurrection.
jesus pays our debt of obedience. But he does not obey so that we won’t have to obey. He obeys so we can obey. The Holy Spirit applies his obedience to us such that we become obedient. Salvation cannot happen in us without confession and repentance happening in us, which is the application by the Holy Spirit of Jesus’ death and resurrection to us.
Last night my 5 year old daughter had trouble cleaning her room. I had to go in and literally place my hand on hers and guide her hand to pick up toys and to put them in her toy box. I was not her substitute. I did not pick up her toys instead of her so she wouldn’t have to. And yet I picked up the toys with her in such a manner that I was essentially the sole agent in getting the job done. But she participated in that she did not resist my physical guidance. This is how Jesus, through the Holy Spirit, applies his obedience to us. It is his obedience applied to us and operating through us, not instead of us.
Jesus says “take up your cross and follow me”
Substitution says “lay down your cross and stay put, for I am going to be crucified in your place.”
Paul says “I have been co-crucified with Christ.”
Substitution says “Christ was crucified instead of me.”
Jesus says “you will drink the cup I drink and be baptized with my baptism,”
Substitution says “I will drink the cup in your place so you won’t have to, and undergo baptism in your place so you won’t have to.”
Jesus says “he who loses his life will save it.”
Substitution says “Jesus loses his life so you won’t have to.”
Paul says “we have died with Christ to the elementary principles of the world.”
Substitution says “Christ has died instead of you to the elementary principles of the world.”
Paul says, “I carry in my body the dying of Jesus.”
Substitution says “Jesus carried about his dying so I never have to”
Paul says he seeks “fellowship with his sufferings and conformity to Jesus’ death”
Substitution says we seek “avoiding his sufferings because he suffered in our place, and avoidance of his death because he died in our place.”