I suppose that depends on how one looks at it.
To me, taking Romans 9:11-13 and looking at it, it strikes me that God literally loved Jacob, and literally hated Esau.
I see this developed starting in Genesis 28:10-22, where the Lord showed Himself to Jacob in a dream, while He never manifested Himself in a personal way to Esau.
Not once during the whole story of Jacob and Esau, was it ever said that God showed favor on Esau...but He did to Jacob.
I also track over to Malachi 1:1-3 and see the very same personal things said by the prophet to Israel, and I see individuals, as well as tribes, being mentioned in the same "breath" as God loving first, the individual, and then the nation.
Regarding Israel:
God loved the nation for the sake of the fathers ( Romans 11:28 ), Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.
He hated Edom for the sake of Esau the same way, IMO.
Back to election...thinking that the story of Jacob and Esau is about individual election is "man-centric", is completely opposite from my understanding of differing dictrines of salvation:
1) A man-centered salvation takes God's choice of the sinner to salvation, and makes His choice dependent on something a man did or does...thereby, the "weakest link" in the process is God
relying on the man to contribute something. This is "man-centric", or centered on man's efforts from God's point of view.
2) A Christ-centered salvation recognizes that God's choice of the individual sinner to salvation is totally dependent on God alone, and there is no "weak link" or anything left up to chance in any of it. This is God- or Christ-centered in that it relies completely on His grace and mercy, with nothing left up to the sinner to do except to receive the gift, which is passive, not active.
So, there is our point of disagreement...what you call "man-centric", I call "Christ-centric" and vice-versa.