But when I have read through those texts I do not come to the same irresistible conclusion that you do.
I can very much see that, sir.
If a limited atonement, or irresistible grace as the calvinists have it were true then that inevitably leads to those that are not included under those headings being damned.
Yes, it does.
I see the Bible teaching both vessels of wrath fitted to destruction ( as in fitting one's self and God then using those sins to judge them ).
and vessels of mercy that He has before-hand prepared to glory, i.e. salvation and eternal life.
A people prepared
for Him ( the "whosoever believeth", from the heart ), and the rest prepared for the Lake of Fire.
In other words, "double predestination" due to "irresistible grace" on the one hand, and "reprobation" on the other.
And since it is God that does it as you say then that would mean that God is the one the condemns them.
Well, I defininitely do not see us as men condemning
ourselves to everlasting punishment,
so, yes, He is the one who does the condemning, as is His right.
The question is why would He condemn them.
For the sins that they have willfully committed against Him.
As this decision was made before time began then it cannot be based on sin or for that matter anything except Gods' choice.
To me, it's both.
Put another way, He judges righteous judgment...
Choosing to hold sinners accountable for willfully committed sins on the one hand, and choosing to bestow mercy through Jesus Christ to those who do not deserve His mercy and grace on the other.on the other.
He decides who to save and who to damn out of all of us unworthy sinners, and He does not leave that choice up to us.
If He did, according to just John 3:19-20, there'd be no takers.