Sister Ann,
I'm still confused, but I think you're saying that the baptism with the Holy Spirit is a one-time even that occurs at the point of salvation (which is what the Bible teaches), and the filling of the Holy Spirit is something that occurs again and again and again as we yield ourselves to Him.
That being the case, I think there's a difference between taking up an offense against another person, which is what I have been talking about, and being righteously indignant against things that God is righteously indignant about.
The woman you dealt with, incidentally, has no concept of what salvation really is, in all liklihood (depending on which version of Pentecostalism you talk to she could have one of at least 4 ideas of how to be saved, none of which are biblical), and that ignorance spills over into her understanding of the work and purpose of the Holy Spirit in our lives.