I don't disagree with what the Bible says, just the interpretation of it thru you.
All I can say in answer to what you are saying is that I agree to disagree.
And just to make sure I even asked my husband if when I ask him if he is sure about something or offer a alternative suggestion if he viewed it as me NOT being submissive. His answer was no.
I think you and I view the Prov. 31 woman differently.
10 [3] A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
Confidence in her opinion as they are a TEAM.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still dark;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her servant girls.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
SHE considers the field. Don't see where she consulted her husband on this.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
SHE IS clothed in fine linen and purple. So it DOES say what she wears.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
Doesn't say that speaks with wisdom only to other women and children.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 "Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all."
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
31 Give her the reward she has earned,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
This woman is a : manufacturer, importer, manager, realtor, farmer, seamstress, upholsterer, and merchant.
Like I said, I do submit to my husband. But, I think that he and I view our marriage a bit differently than you and your husband. We do devotions together. We read the Bible together. We both discuss what it means. We come to decisions together. We have respect for each other. We view our marriage as equal partners both giving it 100%. We have a rule in our house that if we are deciding something and we don't agree then whatever it is, is then put on hold til we do agree. We view this as a partnership with EQUAL stock. Actually, we both submit to each other.
There are things that I want to do that he "goes along with" as well as things that he wants that I "go along with". We both feel that is how it is supposed to be FOR US. I am in no way saying that waht works for us, should be what is for everyone. We have been married now for almost 11 years, we have 2 wonderful kids, and we share in the responsiblities of the kids, house, and marriage.
We have bought 2 houses, rented a few apt's, bought and traded in cars, chosen churches to attend, moved half-way cross country 3 times, etc. All of it was done with him REQUESTING and/or RESPECTING my opinion. And to be completely honest he left the final decision on a few of those up to me.
I happen to be a very strong willed christian woman. I know that I have a brain, that GOD gave me to use, as well as opinions, ideas, and convictions. But you know what? I don't think my husband would have me any other way.