I gave you my reasons and yet you cut them out of your reply?
Yes, I cut them out. The reason you gave for divorcing your wife is that she refused to leave her family and cleave to you. I think young couples wrestle with this as men often struggle for independence as a family unit and women often hold on to their family bonds. I think you misinterpret "leave" and "cleave" to mean abandonment and servitude. When you married you also inherited a responsibility to your wife's family. I do not know why you want to bring this up again (please don't blame anyone but yourself), but your grounds for divorce (she "stresses" you out and won't leave her family to cleave to you) was unbiblical. Had you fulfilled your responsibilities perhaps things would have turned out differently down the road (most of us who have been married for some time have gone through difficulties, but we've chosen love over abandonment.
So....I cut out those pathetic excuses you offered for leaving your wife and transgressing the covenant you made before God. I did this to get at the heart of the matter:
No it was way too stressful for me.
Our marriages are not about us, they are about our spouses. I hope you learn this before entering into another marriage.
BUT, NOW THAT WE'RE HERE:
That article on my site is from 2009 and my position on alcohol among other issues has changed. Also I do not reject 1 Cor 9. I see that we preach and God elects. I am a Calvinist so this is my position.
You say that you are a Calvinist so your position:
1. Denies that Paul sought to win those under the Law.
2. Denies that Paul sought to win those not under the Law.
3. Denies that there are lost people to win who are not under the Law.
4. Denies that Paul sought to save some.
In other words, what you are doing is using Calvinism to justify your denial of Paul's statements in 1 Corinthians 9. That doesn't cut it. As
@JohnDeereFan pointed out, God acknowledges our role. Your argument against "soul winning" is an argument against Scripture. That said, I think you are just stumbling over the words and not actually denying what is said.