I don't hate Calvinists, but I believe Calvinism is complete error.
Total Depravity as Calvinists believe is false. Calvinism teaches that a person must be regenerated to have the ability to have faith in Christ. This is easily shown false.
If regeneration must precede faith as all Calvinists teach you have a serious problem, because you are teaching a person can be born again, spiritually alive and yet be dead in trespasses and sins at the same time. Take the example of the Philipian jailer.
Acts 16:29 Then he called for a light, and sprang in, and came trembling, and fell down before Paul and Silas,
30 And brought them out, and said, Sirs, what must I do to be saved?
31 And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house.
32 And they spake unto him the word of the Lord, and to all that were in his house.
33 And he took them the same hour of the night, and washed their stripes; and was baptized, he and all his, straightway.
34 And when he had brought them into his house, he set meat before them, and rejoiced, believing in God with all his house.
In verse 30 we see the Philipian jailer desired to be saved. He was not saved at this moment, he was still in all his sins, yet he had a desire to be saved. Several Calvinists here have said this is evidence the Philipian jailer was regenerated.
But do you see the problem with that? He was still dead in all his sins, because you are not justified until you believe. And we know for certain he had not yet believed, because Paul told him he must believe in verse 31. And Paul told him once he believes he "shalt be saved". So being saved (regenerated) follows faith, not precedes it.
So those who teach he was regenerated are teaching that he was born again, spiritually alive, and yet spiritually dead in his sins at the same moment. Some Calvinists teach that a person can be regenerated for many years before they believe on Jesus. This person would be spiritually alive and yet dead in all their sins for many years. This is absolutely impossible.
The Philipian jailer was not regenerated in verse 30 when he sprang in and asked how to be saved. He was still dead in trespasses and sins. Only after hearing the gospel and believeing on Jesus was he justified and his sins forgiven. This is when he was regenerated, after expressing faith, not before.
And Ephesians 1:13 shows this order. It shows a person first hears the gospel, then believes the gospel, and afterwards receives the Spirit and is regenerated. It is receiving the Holy Spirit that regenerates a person.
Eph 1:13 In whom ye also trusted, after that ye heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation: in whom also after that ye believed, ye were sealed with that holy Spirit of promise,
So, the teaching of Calvinism that a person must be regenerated to have the ability to believe on Jesus is false and unscriptural.