Crabtownboy said:
From the beginning, Jewish women disciples, including Mary Magdalene, Joanna, and Susanna, had accompanied Jesus during his ministry and supported him out of their private means (Luke 8:1-3). He spoke to women both in public and private, and indeed he learned from them. According to one story, an unnamed Gentile woman taught Jesus that the ministry of God is not limited to particular groups and persons, but belongs to all who have faith (Mark 7:24-30; Matthew 15:21-28).
I contest that Jesus "learned from them." He accepted their support, he talked to them, even in public, and he taught and questioned them. But I don't think he had to
learn anything from them, in particular not the gentile woman to which you referred. He told her it isn't right to take the childrens' food and throw it to the dogs-- he didn't say he wouldn't help her under any circumstances and then change his mind. Rather, she accepted what he said and added the learned comment he was looking for-- that's being a teacher, not a pupil.
But even with that, I don't know how Jesus 'learned' everything in life he had to; but I don't think that even as a fetus he was the all-knowing God who could speak every language and knew quantum mechanics. So even if there was learning involved to function as a person, I don't think Jesus was still being morally corrected, or any such thing, by women or by men, by the time of his public ministry. I rather suspect-- that's the limit of what I can do here-- that Jesus may have 'burnt the midnight oil' more than anyone in history to know all he had to accomplish 'to the letter.' But once he did, he was all teacher, not learner.
As to the question of this thread (I'm finally getting to it), I stand with Paul's precepts of an elder or deacon being the husband of one wife-- making me ineligible, since I'm not (and never been) married. But there are many ways to serve without being elder or deacon, and if
deacon means nothing more than servant, the word would seem to be meaningless, since everyone in the church, even Jesus himself, came to serve, not be served [in KJV terms, "not to be ministered unto, but to minister"]. But that's rather a loop, if everyone serves and there's no one to be served.
But taking this one step further, I have resolved that assembling together for prayer, praise, songs,
maybe prophecy or tongues, has its limits; meaning all these other things we do-- "Sunday School," training seminars, picnics, missions exhibits, et al-- are not included in the assembly limitations. So women can teach in Bible Studay/Sunday School, and direct and chair these other programs, because scripture really says nothing about them; we do them in support of the 'main event,' the worship assembly. And certainly-- deacon or not, minister or not--
anyone can share their knowledge and experiences to those inside or outside the church in order to do what we all should do-- serve; minister, per se.