I don't see the problem.
But it wasn't all that long ago that I wrestled with it, and
quite a bit.
God saves, and God casts into Hell.
Those whom He saves, he chose to that salvation...those He didn't, He damned from all eternity.
Justly.
He sees the end from the beginning.
He knows the hearts and minds.
He knows each and every sin, bad thought, etc.
He decides to save, and no one can say He did it unjustly...no matter if one does or does not understand election.
Yes, I agree that to us as men, it
seems callous.
Over the years, I've begun to see it matter-of-fact.
Given the "chance", we would have spit in His face than give up our sins.
That by no means makes me callous and unloving towards the people I meet...just that I rest in God's choices, and am completely unable to change them.
I need to deal with the fact that most of the people around me are going to Hell...and for good reason.
I'm not going to Hell, and it's only because of His amazing grace.
I deal with it daily, and it's not easy.
I've dealt with that when family members passed away without coming to Christ.
I will deal with that when family and friends pass away in the future.
It's not that I loved them any less than before, but that I have grown to love the Lord far more than them.
I also rest in the fact that he will dry all my tears someday.