I believe the Lord gives us a space to repent and believe just as he did Jezebel.
Revelation 2:20-21 KJVS
[20] Notwithstanding I have a few things against thee, because thou sufferest that woman Jezebel, which calleth herself a prophetess, to teach and to seduce my servants to commit fornication, and to eat things sacrificed unto idols. [21] And I gave her space to repent of her fornication; and she repented not.
The Lord could be drawing both of you and you move to him and the other doesn’t. The Holy Ghost speaks to our hearts when we hear the preached Gospel. God also may not be speaking or drawing the one beside the other. Many times I heard his voice but wouldn’t turn to him with all my heart. The evening I was born again, I was singing with the church beside the piano and the Hoky Spirit began to draw me. I said to myself, or the enemy was telling me that it wasn’t time yet the preacher hadn’t preached yet and it wasn’t altar time. But I had heard the gospel before several times. I felt the drawing power get lighter and lighter, then a fear came over me that I may never get that call again. So, I put down the song book and made a few steps to the altar and gave it all to Jesus. In an instant, I felt the burden of sin lifted from me. Other times I had prayed and even told I was saved, but I had never truly given myself to him and the Holy Spirit let me know it that evening. God deals with us in his time. He gets the glory when we overcome self and Satan and obey Him.
John 6:44 KJVS
[44] No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day.
Revelation 3:20 KJVS
[20] Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
Revelation 22:17 KJVS
[17] And the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And let him that heareth say, Come. And let him that is athirst come. And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely.