Webdog, I already know what you believe. You have stated that you believe that God choses people He saw would believe. I have already proven that position to be fatalism....... see my response to Richard. If God based salvation or election upon prescience, then when men are born and go through life, their fate is set by what God saw. If God saw them not believe, then they will not believe, they have no chance to believe.
Calvinist believe that God sets His love upon those He has chosen, who were headed to hell, and in time He saves them. That is not fatalism, not mere fate, but God acting in time and accomplishing what He in eternity past chose to do. All men are headed to hell, and left to themselves will go there. God in HIs mercy saves some. He does not save all of them. If you have a problem with that.... take it up with God.
Either way.... election viewed through arminianism or calvinism, we have the problem of God allowing men to come into existence knowing that some would not believe and go to hell. That is our problem, not God's. He is the Creator, and has the right to dispose of His creation as He sees fit.