Two things:
1. All men are commanded to repent.
2. All men cannot repent unless they are made able to repent.
I'm going back to a previous post that you did really not respond to. Eph. 2:1 makes it perfectly clear that sinners are spiritually dead. The word νεκρος in Ephesians 2:1 means dead as in a corpse. Jamieson, Fausset, and Brown define νεκρος in Eph. 2:1 this way:
A living corpse: without the gracious presence of God’s Spirit in the soul, and so unable to think, will, or do aught that is holy.
Jamieson, R., Fausset, A. R., & Brown, D. (1997). Commentary Critical and Explanatory on the Whole Bible (Vol. 2, p. 344). Oak Harbor, WA: Logos Research Systems, Inc.
Matthew Henry writes:
Unregenerate souls are dead in trespasses and sins. All those who are in their sins, are dead in sins; yea, in trespasses and sins, which may signify all sorts of sins, habitual and actual, sins of heart and of life. Sin is the death of the soul. Wherever that prevails there is a privation of all spiritual life. Sinners are dead in state, being destitute of the principles, and powers of spiritual life; and cut off from God, the fountain of life: and they are dead in law, as a condemned malefactor is said to be a dead man.
Henry, M. (1994). Matthew Henry’s commentary on the whole Bible: complete and unabridged in one volume (p. 2309). Peabody: Hendrickson.
Dwell on that for a moment. Don't try to pawn it off on other passages to try and lessen its impact. Eph. 2:1 deserves to be understood in its own right. There is a reason why the Apostle Paul used νεκρος. There are plenty of other Greek words he could have used to denote the effect of sin, but he chose a word that ruled out any action on the part of the subject. In the movie, the Green Mile the guards called those prisoners on death row "dead men walking". That is exactly the extrapolation of Eph. 2:1. From birth, sinners are dead men walking - spiritually dead. The other passages I cited, Rom. 8:5-7 and 1 Cor. 2:14, describe the consequences of spiritual death: inability. If the sinner remains spiritually dead he is unable to respond to God's command to repent. I'm not making this up. This is the where the text takes us.
So, what do we do with God's command for sinners repent and believe? The first thing we need to understand is that God is not obligated to His creation beyond what He has promised (and in that case, He is obligated to His own word, not to His creation). The scripture says that the preaching of the Gospel to those who are perishing is an aroma of death:
2 Cor. 2:14-17 14 But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumph in Christ, and manifests through us the sweet aroma of the knowledge of Him in every place. 15 For we are a fragrance of Christ to God among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing; 16 to the one an aroma from death to death, to the other an aroma from life to life. And who is adequate for these things? 17 For we are not like many, peddling the word of God, but as from sincerity, but as from God, we speak in Christ in the sight of God.
Judicially those who reject the gospel will be condemned because of their unbelief. It doesn't matter whether they had the ability to repent and believe or not. God is not obligated to save anyone and He is not obligated to make sure everyone hears the gospel.
Psalm 19:9b The judgments of the LORD are true; they are righteous altogether.
If we are tempted to call God mean and capricious, then we need to be reminded of the words of the Apostle:
Romans 9:14- 23 14 What shall we say then? There is no injustice with God, is there? May it never be! 15 For He says to Moses, “I WILL HAVE MERCY ON WHOM I HAVE MERCY, AND I WILL HAVE COMPASSION ON WHOM I HAVE COMPASSION.” 16 So then it does not depend on the man who wills or the man who runs, but on God who has mercy. 17 For the Scripture says to Pharaoh, “FOR THIS VERY PURPOSE I RAISED YOU UP, TO DEMONSTRATE MY POWER IN YOU, AND THAT MY NAME MIGHT BE PROCLAIMED THROUGHOUT THE WHOLE EARTH.” 18 So then He has mercy on whom He desires, and He hardens whom He desires.
19 You will say to me then, “Why does He still find fault? For who resists His will?” 20 On the contrary, who are you, O man, who answers back to God? The thing molded will not say to the molder, “Why did you make me like this,” will it? 21 Or does not the potter have a right over the clay, to make from the same lump one vessel for honorable use and another for common use? 22 What if God, although willing to demonstrate His wrath and to make His power known, endured with much patience vessels of wrath prepared for destruction? 23 And He did so to make known the riches of His glory upon vessels of mercy, which He prepared beforehand for glory,
So we see, plainly written, that God purposed vessels of mercy which He prepared beforehand. God's purpose does not diminish the well-meant offer of the gospel. All those who call upon the name of the Lord will be saved. However, all will not because all cannot. God has not endued us with perfect knowledge. We do not know who is elect and who is not. We preach the gospel in power and in truth, knowing that God has chosen the gospel as the means of salvation and that all who believe it will be saved.