Throw this into the mix:
The Scripture says "ye must be born again!" period! If an infant dies in infancy or is aborted; is that infant saved? Is (s)he saved without being "born again?" Does God say one thing in one place and they say another thing in another place?
Or, does God have a "special dispensation" or "sidebar" or "sweetheart deal" made with each infant or aborted baby?
Something to ponder!! It is hard to deal in totally hard and fast Biblical categories for everything in our systems of theology; whether they be Calvinist, Arminian, Luther, Methodist, RCC, Baptist or whatever.
Just think about it!
sdg!
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