I haven’t yet come to a final conclusion. I would like to leave the discussion open that way I can consider all possibilities.
I try very hard not to get into these discussions about Calvinism. And as far as Arminianism, I've been here at the BB for 22 years and never seen a person admit to those beliefs.
I cannot be an Arminian because the classic teachings teach that you can lose your salvation. That's not what I believe.
I cannot be a Calvinism because I do not believe nor see anywhere in the Bible where God created billions of people in their mothers' wombs hating them while he did so - intending from before their conception that they burn in hell for eternity for the sole reason that he never intended on drawing them to himself or giving them an opportunity to be saved - because he hated them from the time he thought of them.
It's a circular unreasonableness.
Cain, more than likely, is in hell. If Calvinism is true, then why did God urge him to turn away from sin and tell him that if he did right that he, Cain, would be accepted?
Cain did not accept God's grace and did not do right. But God made the offer. Cain was allowed to make the choice. He made the wrong choice.
The same thing with the rich, young ruler. The Bible says that Jesus
loved him and explained how to receive eternal life. The rich, young ruler could not admit that he was a sinner and could not turn away from his self-centeredness nor riches.
But Jesus extended his truth and love nonetheless.