You are exactly correct. There are many here, really nice people by the way, that have the cut and past thing down to a science, an art form. Instead of digging into the actual meaning of a passage or two of Scripture they toss up a jumbo list of quotes that usually don't teach what they say it teaches but has the effect of overwhelming those who disagree with them. This is basically a polite way of saying "shut up".
Reason: When a man has hours and hours and years and years of ministry or a couple 1000 posts on BB combined with a graduate degree or two and they are all in arguing for a doctrine that they say is biblical but is actually not entirely true they tend to resist any effort to change their minds. For the reformed covenant crowd, they declare that which they don't like to be allegory and label anyone that disagrees with them to be uninformed and uneducated. It is a tactic that works. After all, reformed covenant theology is the position of the highly educated class. Without employing copious amounts of allegory, reformed covenant theology dies on the vine.
Solution: Stop worshiping highly educated and respected theologians, smart and successful as they might be and just study the Bible. Consider what they have to say but don't hang on their every word because they are just like the rest of us, sinners saved by grace.
Disclaimer: My personal theology is not perfect, i admit that. There are some difficult passages to consider. Consider that when Jesus was speaking to Nicodemus he said to him "whoever believes in Him should not parish but have everlasting life". Jesus was speaking to one of the most educated and respected theologians of the day. This was a man that knew all about "election". Notice that Jesus didn't mention anything about election or ritual or baptism or communion or reformed covenant theology. No, Jesus simply said that "whoever believes in Him..." Simple enough.