I haven't conveniently forgotten anything. There are confessions and systematic theologies and they serve a purpose. I've said before that I was drawn to the Puritan writings because of their help to me in my Christian life and had read Bunyan in particular for about a year before a Sunday school teacher told me "You do know, don't you, that they were all Calvinists." There is theology and there is ministry and application. Look at this from J.C. Ryle from his book "Old Paths" chapter 14 Christs Invitation.
"You may tell me that you have no right to accept this invitation, because you do not know that you are one of God's elect. I answer, that you have no right to put words in Christ's mouth which He has not used. He does not say "Come unto me, all ye that are elect". He addresses all the "labouring and heavy-laden ones", without any exception. Are you one of them? Is there weight within on your soul? This is the only question you have to decide. If you are, you are one of those to whom Christ speaks."
To me, this kind of preaching fits beautifully with Calvinism, properly understood and applied correctly. True, it does not fit with what some on this board put out there. They call me unstable, or wishy-washy but honestly, if Calvinism really was what they portray it as I would hate and tear into it too. I could show you similar similar invitations from Owen, Edwards, Bunyan, Bonar, Spurgeon but some on here go nuts if you just say you are "invited" to come to Christ. Still, I am just as concerned when I see some on here who think the only alternative to the extreme Calvinism is to go so far into elevating "free will" that you are heading dangerously close to Pelagianism.