Amen, Jim - I like what he said.
Sister Ann - let me preface my comments with the following statement:
It is impossible to offend a Spirit-filled believer. If you are not Spirit-filled, and you disagree with what I am about to say, the evidence of that will be that you will get angry with me. Believe me, I've seen it more than once - Satan will do ANYTHING to keep God's people from discovering what TRUE worship is all about (hint: it focuses on the WORD), and if helping you get mad at me in order to prevent you from seeing the truth works, then so much the better for him.
SO > if you aren't sure you're Spirit-filled, PLEASE do NOT read what comes next, because in NO sense am I trying to offend you or make you made.
Fair enough?
OK - I warned you.
Now, here goes -
You're making some incorrect assumptions:
1. All music is NOT rhythm-based. In reality, while all music does have rhythm, not all music has rhythm as its main, or dominant component.
Some music has melody as its dominant component, and is, therefore, melody-based.
Some music has harmony as its dominant component, and is, therefore, harmony-based.
And some music has rhythm as its dominant component, and is, therefore, rhythm-based.
Melody-based music feeds the spiritual side of our being most, our mind less, and our flesh even less.
Harmony-based music feeds the mind most, the spiritual, not so much, but the flesh more than melody-based music does.
Rhythm-based music feeds the flesh first and foremost, the mind to a small degree, and the spiritual side of our makeup starves and grows weak.
2. You assume that I don't like rhythm-based music.
It's not that I don't like rhythm-based music - I do! But the part of me (and you, too) that likes it is my flesh, and I have enough problems with it than to go off feeding it T-bone steak!
Our music must focus on feeding our spiritual side, and, therefore, our music must have the melody - which speaks to our spirit - as the dominant characteristic/element of any music we listen to as Christians, be it sacred or secular (hate those terms, by the way).
The principle of balance in our lives and presented in Scripture is not that we allow equal amounts of nourishment, if you please, to be given to our spirit, mind, and flesh, but that we counter the effects of the fall by limiting the access our fleshly nature has to carnal, flesh-strengthening things, and feed our spirits and our minds with the Word of God as much as we can to counter the effects of the flesh.
Those who prefer flesh-building music, no matter what the words, are accepting Satan's counterfeit for the filling of the Holy Spirit - they equate the feeling they get from the music to the filling of God's Spirit, and, as I have said before, if God doesn't open their eyes to it, they will spend the rest of their lives deluded into believing they are Spirit-filled, when, in reality, Satan has duped them!
I spent many years as a church sound system designer/installer/system operator, as well as a minister of music - believe me when I tell you: most of what people in most contemporary "worship" services are responding to is NOT the Holy Spirit of God, but is, in reality a fleshly response to the counterfeit Satan has foisted upon them as genuine.
Now do a little checking up - are you angry?
I hope not, but if so, consider that it is impossible to offend a Spirit-filled believer...
One last thing - have you or your husband done an exhaustive study of what the Bible teaches about music?
No offenses intended - just asking...