Ok...i will bite on this....ITL.....have you ever prayed and asked God to save someone?
If you answer yes.....what were you asking God to Do?
What were you requesting and asking God?
Did you ask for God to give the person a new heart?
Did you ask for God to regenerate that dead sinner to life?
Did you ask for God to make the person willing and able to respond saving my to the word preached?
Have you asked God to prepare the persons heart to welcome the word preached?
Have you asked for God to give the person no peace, and no rest until they rest in Jesus?
That is a few examples of the question of the op..
Now if you do not petition for any of these things....what do you specifically pray for instead.....is that clearer?
Thanks for keeping the focus on the OP. You've framed the questions well. We understand that the intellectually honest Arminian bumps his head into the inconsistency of his theology in trying to answer these questions, which is why we haven't had a direct answer to them. One would hope that he follows that honesty to where it leads and he rejects the false position he holds rather than either running away or attempting to divert our attention to something other than the question at hand.