I dont fully agree. The true Calvinist believes that the non-elect can not have a desire to be saved. Anyone who wants to can accept Christ because only the "elect" can "want to."
I don't think this is entirely accurate. It is possible, I think, to have a non-elect person desire to be saved. I think we see this in the Rich Young Ruler. But, the question is better asked: Do the non-elect want to be saved in their rebellion against God or do they want to be delivered from their rebellion against God?
I think many want to be saved even in their active rebellion against God. But, the elect will wish to be delivered from their rebellion against God. This is why the discussion of "conversion" is so important to a proper understanding of responding to Christ in repentance and faith.
I think this is, at least, implied in what Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 6:
[9] Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, [10] nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. [11] And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. (1 Corinthians 6:9-11 ESV)
That's a sticking point.
The Non-Cal believes the Spirit must draw the sinner to belief in Christ, without this working of the Holy Spirit none could be saved. The Truth convicts ALL, but not ALL will deny themselves and submit to God's path to eternal life.
The Cal believes the Spirit must regenerate first, forcing the person to belief in Christ.
Jesus' lamenting over Jerusalem supports the Non-Cal position and clearly shows the Cal position to be in error. God has no reason to lament over the lost if God is the One preventing them from having a choice.
The word "force" is misplaced here. The Calvinist conception of salvation deals with God making the unwilling willing, not force.
Jesus' lament over Jerusalem cannot be seen outside the context of God's revelation in the Old Testament. As Paul said, they had the oracles of God. Israel had God's special revelation for quite a bit of time, yet, even though they knew about Him, they did not receive Christ because they did not know God.
Jesus' lament over Jerusalem is a reminder to all that we can know about God and still not want to know Him intimately.
Again, from the Old Testament, we must remember that those who sinned by creating and worshiping the Golden Calf are the very same people who had walked through the dry ground of the Red Sea.
Neither proves or disproves Calvinism in and of itself. What it does show, however, is that knowledge about God--even in the preaching of the Gospel--doesn't equate to salvation. For salvation to happen, there must be a super-natural application of knowledge (or fact) to a heart made willing to believe.
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