In the OT Davidic kingdom, the mother of the king had a very important office and had great authority. She was the 'gebirah', or "great lady", the "queen mother", and often had a throne on the right side of the king. Through out the books of Kings there is reference made to the mother of the king and several times to the specific office of "queen mother". The book of Hebrews makes it clear that Psalm 45 pertains to Christ. In that particular psalm, we find the queen by the King's (Christ) right hand side (v.9).
First I was wrong about the reference to Deborah. It was to Jael, a common person with no royal heritage, and not even a judge.
Judges 5:24
Blessed above women shall Jael the wife of Heber the Kenite be, blessed shall she be above women in the tent.
What did Jael do?
Judges 4:21 Then Jael Heber's wife took a nail of the tent, and took an hammer in her hand, and went softly unto him, and smote the nail into his temples, and fastened it into the ground: for he was fast asleep and weary. So he died.
--With that act the Canaanites were defeated.
Concerning Psalm 45 context is important.
That passage starts earlier in verse six:
Psalms 45:6 Thy throne, O God, is for ever and ever: the sceptre of thy kingdom is a right sceptre.
--He is describing God, as He sits on the throne of His Kingdom. Thus a reference to Jesus Christ in the millennial Kingdom.
The description continues, although somewhat allegorical, for David can only imagine what the Kingdom would be like:
Psalms 45:7-8 Thou lovest righteousness, and hatest wickedness: therefore God, thy God, hath anointed thee with the oil of gladness above thy fellows. All thy garments smell of myrrh, and aloes, and cassia, out of the ivory palaces, whereby they have made thee glad.
--His description of God cannot be denied in verse 7. God alone loves righteousness and hates wickedness.
--The description of the One that sits on the Throne is somewhat allegorical. And yet this is the way we picture Christ.
Psalms 45:9 Kings' daughters were among thy honourable women: upon thy right hand did stand the queen in gold of Ophir.
--Now the verb tense changes to past tense--"were".
David is making a comparison. No matter how much glory the kings of the past may have had, it will be nothing compared to the glory that the Lord Jesus Christ will have. That is the only point that David is making.
[quote[It is interesting in the context of Luke 1, in which Gabriel tells Mary that her Son will sit on the throne of David, that soon afterwards we read of the preborn John the Baptist leaping in his mother's womb at the sound of Mary's voice...the "mother of my (Elizabeth's) Lord", as Elizabeth put it. Certainly we can give Mary as much honor as did Elizabeth and little John inside her, as she is the 'queen mother" of the fulfilled Davidic Kingdom...the one through which God chose to become Incarnate.[/quote]
Read on. Immediately after Elizabeth gave her salutation, this was Mary's answer:
Luke 1:46-47 And Mary said, My soul doth magnify the Lord, And my spirit hath rejoiced in God my Saviour.
--Her admission that she is in need of a Saviour is an admission that she is a sinner.
So while Mary is NOT to be worshipped, as she herself is a creature and not the Creator, God Himself has highly honored her, so His children, who are part of the same spiritual family as Mary through our common relationship through Christ, should do the same.
God highly honored each one of the Apostles as authors of the NT Scriptures. God uses many individuals in special ways. We ought not to lift one sinner above another. God never intended it to be that way.