Jon-Marc,
I would like to talk through your post. While I can see we are on different sides of the theological divide, I think this exercise will prove helpful to all.
I agree with Robert. God saves those who respond to His call.
No one of the reformed persuasion would disagree. God does, in fact, save those who respond to His call.
However, it is not that simple. We see things in Scripture about the state of man, most notably Genesis 6--man has a heart that desires only evil continually. It is noteworthy that that same sentiment is shared after the flood in Genesis 8. So, the state of man before the flood is the state of man after the flood. In other words, the flood has not fundamentally changed man (which, by the way, tells us that Noah was not different than the men in his day--if the evil of man before the flood is the same as after the flood, then Noah has passed that evil on from himself. It is an inherent condition of mankind).
So, this raises the question "how can someone with a heart that desires only evil continually respond to God."
We, the reformed-types, say that God must do a work to make a person willing to respond. It is still, in our view, a legitimate response, but it is a response based on God's initiation, not ours.
His foreknowledge allows Him to know before hand who will come to Him and who won't. Then He elects to save those who respond and come to him.
I understand that many hold to this. The grammar of the passage, thought, won't allow for this. The verbs in the Romans 8:29-30 passage (and there are 5) are all in the Aorist tense. In Greek, the Aorist is the "snapshot" of past time. In and of itself, that "foreknew" is Aorist is, likely, no big deal. However, since all 5 verbs--foreknew, predestined, called, justified, and glorified--are all Aorist suggests that the entirety of our salvation is seen, by God, as a done deal. In other words our salvation was initiated by God in the past and that initiation will also, necessarily, include our glorification (which is seen also as a past snapshot).
I cannot and will not believe in a God who is so unjust that He chooses who He will or will not save regardless of whether or not we respond to His call to come and be forgiven and won't save someone who sincerely repents, believes, and calls on Him for forgiveness and salvation simply because they not one of the "elect".
To me, this is the most disturbing part of your post. Let me raise a hypothetical situation with you...What if you're wrong?
First off, let me point out where you are wrong about one thing. You say "I will not believe in a God...[who] won't save someone who sincerely repents...simply because they [are] not one of the 'elect.'"
We, as Calvinists don't believe in this "god" either. I'm afraid you have misunderstood what we have been saying about election.
We do believe that all who sincerely come to Christ in repentance and faith will be saved.
But, we believe that coming to Christ is proof of God's work of election in that person's life, not the cause of it.
Furthermore, in describing a person who "sincerely repents...who is not elect" you have, basically, described a square circle. There is no one with an only-evil-continually heart who will respond to God. Period. God must do something to make the unwilling willing.
Also, the part of your statement I'm most disturbed about is that you seem to question God's justice in such a way that you seem to say (and insist on) that man is morally neutral, neither inherently good or bad. Of course the plain teaching of scripture is that man is inherently bad, not neutral.
We are not saved because of His election to save us; He elects to save us because He knows beforehand that we will respond. Why else would He say "Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved"? If it's not a case of "whosoever shall call", then those words are a lie since according to some He has already chosen who He will and will not saved because of His preference and not by our response and His foreknowledge.
In not dealing with ever sentence here, let me say that I think you're referring to Romans 10:13. There is a translation issue. You are trying to read "whosoever" as saying "all those who are in and of themselves willing." The text, though, says nothing of the sort. The text simply states "All who call on the name of the Lord shall be saved." The text makes no comment on who the "all" are or how they got to be there.
That's all I have time for now. Perhaps we'll have a profitable back-and-forth.
Blessings,
The Archangel