I have been showing you scripture
Yes, you have! You've always made your points directly from Scripture, and that is to be respected!
There are several predestination verses in Scripture, and taken at face value, it would appear that you are correct. But when all the context is taken in, there arises a totally different meaning to these verses.
Let's take Eph. 1:4-5 for example, as these verses seem to be the most often "go to" predestination verses. But let's take all the surrounding context into account when searching for the truth, not just the face value as is often done. It's important, Brightfame52, that you have a clear understanding of the opposition to predestination. I hope you will take the time to understand what I'm about to cover.
Pay close attention to the context written by Paul.
1) spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ.
2) He has chosen us in Him before the foundation of the world.
3) predestinated unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ.
4 ) in whom we have redemption through His blood.
5) the forgiveness of sins.
While you read these verses, bear in mind the emphasis is on "our redemption through the Blood of Christ."
Eph. 1:3
"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ:"
The blessings come from Christ, the atonement He provided for us.
Eph. 1:4
"According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love:"
This is not referring to God choosing who will be saved, but rather the plan of redemption God chose for us in Christ before the foundation of the world. The focus is the plan of redemption chosen for us through the finished work of Christ.
Eph. 1:5
"Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will,"
This again is not God choosing the individual as to who will be saved, it's the plan of redemption that has been predestined for us. It is the way God has determined for man to come back into fellowship, only through Christ.
Eph. 1:6
"To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved."
"The beloved" here is Christ. We have been accepted by the Father according to His plan of redemption through and in Christ.
Eph. 1:7
"In whom we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of his grace;"
The plan of God we have been predestined for is according to "the redemption through His Blood."
"The riches of His grace" is the sacrifice God gave us on the Cross in Jesus Christ."
You are deceiving yourself if you ignore that "it's not God's will that any perish, but that all should come to repentance." 2 Peter 3:9