Van, it is obvious that you cannot accept the contradictions in your position. It seems that you have picked the views that you want from God, regardless of whether God actually speaks that view. I have read enough comments between you and others to know your pet verses have been explained to you. I have addressed your five views in this thread.
You have stated your position. I disagree with your position. We will not find a compromise on the means of salvation.
1) You falsely claim "contradictions" yet never identify them? False charge!
2) Every position presented is supported explicitly by passages of scripture.
3) You have not presented any evidence that any of the true doctrines present are mistaken.
4) Agreed, I will not compromise scripture.
Calvinist preacher: Jesus may have died for your sins, He died for the sins of those chosen unconditionally before creation. There is nothing you can do to alter the predestined outcome of your life, or the lives of your loved ones. They were either saved or condemned from all eternity for all eternity.
Of course for those of us who believe God desires all men to be saved and Christ laid down His life as a ransom for all, we think Calvinism offers a bogus view of the gospel.