Reformed:
As for Gods love:
I would ask that you take a moment to ponder the very real potential that Gods love is more than ONE aspect scripturally speaking. Much in the same as mans.
We are to live out lives that represent God in word, deed, AND Character. Right?
God tell US also to love our enemies.
Does God ask us to do what He will not and does not do?
Remember God blesses the wicked along side the righteous for He makes the rain to fall on both and the sun to rise on them both as well. The wicked live, breathe, laugh, triumph, and even hear Gods word. Is that not love to bless them just as he does the righteous?
God also tells us to love the brethren.
Does God expect that love to be the same as the love we are to bestow on our enemies?
No. We know this because God tells us in the Holy Writ "to prefer one another"
A good example of this loving two but preferring one over another is the scripture which says:
Hate can mean to love less, but in sense of being perfered OVER another regarding something shared but is shared unequally.
Now don't get me wrong. God does Hate for God is love.
But what is the root of God's hate - Man or sin.
Though man is bound IN/TO Sin it is not man that God hates but the sinfulness OF man.
Let me back up and and try from a different point using a specific illistration:
Such as Jacob have I loved and Esau have I hated. - I know you have a different view, but will you honestly hear me out and examine what I give??
Look at the Luke Passage from Matthews’s perspective:
Did you know that Esau is the ONLY person in the entirety of scripture to be said to be hated by God. Why?
We know scripture says God does hate and it is those who live in unrighteousness, wickedness, and sinful ways. God hates those people.
Out of 171 verses with the words hate, hated, and hateth only these two depict God hating a people specifically and the rest show God hating the actions of sin, wickedness, and unrighteousness. (outside of the verses containing Esau and Jacob)
But even here in these two verses the hate is in conjunction with their actions not the person at some point before.
And one even speaks to the fact that God removes his love from a group because they choose to continue IN SIN. That love was that special love of the elect Israel specifically to Ephraim who was removed from the whole (before the whole itself was removed) but will eventually be brought back in. (that is another topic)
So in context Esau is the only person that scripture says God hated, more to the point - before he ever did any good or bad;
OR could it be:
Esau was hated (not perfered to, or Loved less) than Jacob due to Gods election to purpose of Jacob for bringing forth a Nation, who will be given Gods Word, and bring forth at the appointed time - Jesus the promised one to Abraham. The prophesy (in Romans and Gen) regarded two NATIONS that came from Issac the promised heir of lineage to Christ through Gods people (Nation) but only one child could the succesor. This is where we see God soveriegnly choosing Jacob over the natural tradition of it being the right of the first born - Esau. This is why it makes an adue about not having done anything good or bad.
Remember God told Rebekah that in thy womb are TWO NATIONS. And the Older shall serve the younger. That is the direct quote Romans 9 gives. The older shall serve the younger. Esau was never Jacobs servant but Esau's decendents WERE. They just like the others named in Romans 9 concerns the federal heads of their respective peoples. The hating of Esau in context is about prefering one over another to the point of being despised in comparision.
I don't want to go to far off topic but only used Romans 9 with Jacob and Esau as an example.
Sorry if I got to rambling but I am really bored tonight at work. I had very little to actaully do.