The foundations of the Calvinist model (in true 5 point fashion) dictate that what the speaker says and what the listener chooses are not at all factors in the outcome of who is saved and who is lost.
This is not at all true. God tells us specifically the process by which the completion of salvation is attained and it is not deterministic. You are describing hyper-Calvinism, not Calvinism.
Thus in the true Calvinist evangelistic meeting the logically "consistent" evangelistic appeal WOULD be to day "What you choose and what I say here tonight matter not one single whit in determining who will be saved tonight and who will remain lost. So let us dispense with this evening's Bible study. We will all just sit in silence and then watch to see who it is that God has just-so-happened to predestined to come forward and be saved". And then he is seated.
If you build your argument on a straw man proposition that does not describe accurately the Calvinist position, then I can see how you might arrive at this conclusion. However, you missed the mark above, and so have "erected your scaffolding" on the wrong house. No matter how good a paint job you do while there, at the end of the day, the wrong house is painted.
God says clearly -- to both the Arminian and the Calvinist, "Preach the Word, in season and out..." and, "If you confess with your mouth and believe in your heart..." ALL the passages in Scripture that detail salvation work for both Calvinist and Arminian. Saying otherwise is nothing more than open warfare and utter falsehood -- both called sin by God when applied to a brother or sister in the Lord. So too is setting Scripture against Scripture! If either system has a fear of any Scripture passage, then that system is not of the Lord. Calvinists do not ignore a single Scripture in their theology. I pray it is the same for Arminians, who seem to have problems with some of the overtly sovereign passages.
After all -- in the true 5 Point model the speaker CANNOT claim with conviction "God Loves YOU listener and God wants YOU to come forward and accept the Gospel". For all the speaker knows - God does not love a single person that is there.
At least in the 5 point model.
Again, you are wrong, and I proclaim that very thing every time I preach. While God certainly hates sin, The Word says that "He loved the whole world..." What you are suggesting (again) is a position apart from true Calvinism. Why would a Calvinist not proclaim the entire Scripture to their people? Are they some other "religion" and a cult? God forbid!
In rebuttal, let me ask this simple question of you...
When God reveals Himself in glory, will there be an Arminian in the crowd? Can any refuse Him? Of course, at that point it is also too late for salvation. The Scriptures are clear on that. We have one life to live, then the judgment.
That may the point where your theology fails. Consider wisely, for we all understand very well the biblical admonitions of one who preaches another gospel.