Wife Swap

[standingfirminChrist]

also been there, done that. my first marriage ended because of a cheating wife.

But that strengthened my faith. those who know me know I didn't cuss or threaten my wife. as a matter of fact, i still kept in touch with members of her family from time to time.

God promises in His Word that He will give us a peace that passes all understanding in times of trouble and trial. And He will... for those who will let Him.

 

[dan e.]

Paul told the Corinthians they were supose to judge the man who was having s*x with his fathers wife.

why don't people just type the word?

sex.

See, it isn't that bad of a word.

 

[nunatak]

they don't type the word so the google ads won't pick up on it and the BB get bombarded with ads about six (sp)

btw, this doesn't affect me, i am FIREFOXed! google that!:laugh:

 

[dan e.]

they don't type the word so the google ads won't pick up on it and the BB get bombarded with ads about six (sp)

btw, this doesn't affect me, i am FIREFOXed! google that!:laugh:

I gotcha.

Firefox is good.

 

[donnA]

why don't people just type the word?

sex.

See, it isn't that bad of a word.

well it's not because it's a bad word, it's because of the google ads.

 

[donnA]

God promises in His Word that He will give us a peace that passes all understanding in times of trouble and trial. And He will... for those who will let Him.

exactly!


...

 

[Gershom]

well, we will never be sin free till we're dead. I gues we'll have to wait till then to try and help a fellow christian.

I would hardly call your counsel "help." In fact, you expressed in another thread that until this person gets "biblical", they will not receive your sympathy. I am glad this was not the response of Jesus toward the woman taken in adultery.

Under your thought, we have no right to tell anyone anything si sin, even the unsaved.

You misunderstand, and I would remind you that I quoted the thoughts of Jesus Himself. If you have difficulty in understanding what this means, I would encourage you to do more study.

 

[Gershom]

Thank you so much because I totally agree. I wonder as I read through these posts how perfect people in here really think they are. The other thing I wonder is what would happen to them if they really had something earth-shattering happen to them as a spouse cheating on them or a child dying or something that would shake their faith so hard they could run to or from the cross. What would they do? Makes you wonder?

One of the short-comings of most Christians is their lack of compassion and mercy. We are quick to condemn and slow to offer forgiveness. Some will take these words as a "nod" condoning sinful behavior, but nothing could be further from the truth. If a person needs to repent, point them to the goodness of God which leads to repentance. Yes, call sin what it is, but offer forgiveness and mercy and tell them to "go and sin no more."

My advice to you is that if you are struggling in a situation that is contrary to what God desires for you, seek the counsel of a seasoned pastor who is equipped to lead and guide you in the right direction through biblical principles in a loving way. I wouldn't seek advice from this board for such life-changing events as you may be going through because the majority of them are just ill-prepared and not called to shepherd the flock of God.

Continue to seek Him through prayer and meditation upon His Word.

 

[donnA]

I would hardly call your counsel "help." In fact, you expressed in another thread that until this person gets "biblical", they will not receive your sympathy. I am glad this was not the response of Jesus toward the woman taken in adultery.



You misunderstand, and I would remind you that I quoted the thoughts of Jesus Himself. If you have difficulty in understanding what this means, I would encourage you to do more study.

I will not sympathize with someone flaunting their sin says there is nothing wrong with it, they will do life their way not God's.

 

[donnA]

seek the counsel of a seasoned pastor who is equipped to lead and guide you in the right direction through biblical principles in a loving way

Her 'seasoned pastor' is divorce and gives approval of divorce and her sinful life style.

 

[Gershom]

I will not sympathize with someone flaunting their sin says there is nothing wrong with it, they will do life their way not God's.

I will certainly keep that in mind.

 

[Gershom]

Her 'seasoned pastor' is divorce and gives approval of divorce and her sinful life style.

Boy, you are quite the busy-body! In any event, my advice to her was to seek a seasoned pastor who is equipped to guide her in such matters. That, along with daily prayer and meditation upon the Word of God will bring freedom from such struggles.

 

[donnA]

Boy, you are quite the busy-body! In any event, my advice to her was to seek a seasoned pastor who is equipped to guide her in such matters. That, along with daily prayer and meditation upon the Word of God will bring freedom from such struggles.

Your 'busy body' statement is a false accusation, a lie. She has made this known more then once, she told it to everyone on the board.

 

[superwoman8977]

Your 'busy body' statement is a false accusation, a lie. She has made this known more then once, she told it to everyone on the board.

I live my life for the Lord. My divorce has opened many doors if you read my post on hurting people I firmly believe that God has placed me at this point in my life to minister to other hurting women. I am sorry that your life is so perfect that you do not understand how you and many others like you limit the power of the Lord. I kept asking God to show me if I am going the right path and the people He has put in my life in the last few weeks have shown me over and over and especially the way He has taken care of me and my family have shown me over and over that indeed I am on the right track. I am dating again, I am blessed to know that God is a God of healing hearts and 2nd chances. Because I know God can heal the wounds that my ex husband caused in my life. Again he cheated, he walked out, not me. I just took the mess that was made of my life and my credit and everything and was like God --Here it is, all of it. I have allowed God to let the healing balms of Gilead work through me and minister to others. God has brought me closer to Him, to my kids, to my friends and family. So to sit there with your arms crossed saying I live a sinful life. I just live the life I have been dealt. In todays day and age there isnt alot of the perfect marriage 2 kid, dog, cat families, I have seen since moving to Indy so many different types of families, so many women working to raise their families while the man is nowhere to be found. So many women who have been hurt so badly they wont even let Jesus in to heal them. The walls these women have built up have turned into fortresses, with "Val' and a couple of the other women I just am there for them. Loving them and praying for them and letting them know they arent alone. Last night we got a chance to let the kids swim at the pool and we all got a chance to talk, there were 4 of them not including me and you could just see over and over again the pain and the hurt in their eyes from enduring one failure or hardship after another. These women some of them work 2 jobs, some of them work 1 job plus go to school, and some of them work 3rd shift while the kids sleep so they can be up to see them off in the morning before they go to school themselves. God has led me to take in a couple of kids and let them sleep at my house while mom works 3rd shift and then she gets home in time to take my son and get him on the bus this fall. I really dont think if I had been married and living my fairy tale life that I could have reached those women as I have because I now know what they are going through. I havent led them to Christ yet but right now I am getting through to them. Last night at the pool we talked about seeking Him, and being happy with yourself. Most of these women have been bashed and belittled for so long that they have very low self-worth. I am learning through these women and through my time in the word and in prayer that once you are hurt you will always have a remnant of that hurt. I am hoping that through talking and conversing with these women I can get them to slowly open up and hopefully use all I have been going through and all I have come through as an outlet, an opening to let them know there is someone who can heal their hurts and love them with this awesome unconditional love and that I am living proof of being loved by that love.

As for Wife Swap I love that show because you get to see life from 2 different points of view. Hopefully the one wife can instill greater insight into the family she gets traded to. They actually I think it was the 1st or 2nd season did a couple husband swaps. One was a farmer who swapped with a businessman and I cannot remember what the other one was, but the end result was 2 families who learned that there is room for improvement in their lives, and I think thats the main thing about wife swap, there is room for improvement. Like my grandfather says if you are not "open for suggestions" then you have a closed heart. Sitting there and saying if you dont accept Christ you cannot come into my home is ludicrous (for lack of a better word). If that was the case then me or my children could not be the beacons of light that we have become. Almost every night there are neighborhood kids hanging out at my house. The other night the kids had a water balloon fight. It was awesome seeing kids of all different backgrounds playing together, all different religions. If I had said that only Christian kids could have played, the result would not have been as awesome. I guess my point is that we need to let God use us in whatever capacity and we need to stop limiting Him.

 

[donnA]

Thats what a christian family needs, greater insight from a wiccan traded wife.
What do you call limiting God? Believing scripture, and believing we are to live scripture, not make it up?

 

[Gershom]

Your 'busy body' statement is a false accusation, a lie. She has made this known more then once, she told it to everyone on the board.

Your definition of 'busybody' is not in agreement with mine.

 

[Gershom]

I live my life for the Lord. My divorce has opened many doors if you read my post on hurting people I firmly believe that God has placed me at this point in my life to minister to other hurting women. I am sorry that your life is so perfect that you do not understand how you and many others like you limit the power of the Lord. I kept asking God to show me if I am going the right path and the people He has put in my life in the last few weeks have shown me over and over and especially the way He has taken care of me and my family have shown me over and over that indeed I am on the right track. I am dating again, I am blessed to know that God is a God of healing hearts and 2nd chances. Because I know God can heal the wounds that my ex husband caused in my life. Again he cheated, he walked out, not me. I just took the mess that was made of my life and my credit and everything and was like God --Here it is, all of it. I have allowed God to let the healing balms of Gilead work through me and minister to others. God has brought me closer to Him, to my kids, to my friends and family. So to sit there with your arms crossed saying I live a sinful life. I just live the life I have been dealt. In todays day and age there isnt alot of the perfect marriage 2 kid, dog, cat families, I have seen since moving to Indy so many different types of families, so many women working to raise their families while the man is nowhere to be found. So many women who have been hurt so badly they wont even let Jesus in to heal them. The walls these women have built up have turned into fortresses, with "Val' and a couple of the other women I just am there for them. Loving them and praying for them and letting them know they arent alone. Last night we got a chance to let the kids swim at the pool and we all got a chance to talk, there were 4 of them not including me and you could just see over and over again the pain and the hurt in their eyes from enduring one failure or hardship after another. These women some of them work 2 jobs, some of them work 1 job plus go to school, and some of them work 3rd shift while the kids sleep so they can be up to see them off in the morning before they go to school themselves. God has led me to take in a couple of kids and let them sleep at my house while mom works 3rd shift and then she gets home in time to take my son and get him on the bus this fall. I really dont think if I had been married and living my fairy tale life that I could have reached those women as I have because I now know what they are going through. I havent led them to Christ yet but right now I am getting through to them. Last night at the pool we talked about seeking Him, and being happy with yourself. Most of these women have been bashed and belittled for so long that they have very low self-worth. I am learning through these women and through my time in the word and in prayer that once you are hurt you will always have a remnant of that hurt. I am hoping that through talking and conversing with these women I can get them to slowly open up and hopefully use all I have been going through and all I have come through as an outlet, an opening to let them know there is someone who can heal their hurts and love them with this awesome unconditional love and that I am living proof of being loved by that love.

As for Wife Swap I love that show because you get to see life from 2 different points of view. Hopefully the one wife can instill greater insight into the family she gets traded to. They actually I think it was the 1st or 2nd season did a couple husband swaps. One was a farmer who swapped with a businessman and I cannot remember what the other one was, but the end result was 2 families who learned that there is room for improvement in their lives, and I think thats the main thing about wife swap, there is room for improvement. Like my grandfather says if you are not "open for suggestions" then you have a closed heart. Sitting there and saying if you dont accept Christ you cannot come into my home is ludicrous (for lack of a better word). If that was the case then me or my children could not be the beacons of light that we have become. Almost every night there are neighborhood kids hanging out at my house. The other night the kids had a water balloon fight. It was awesome seeing kids of all different backgrounds playing together, all different religions. If I had said that only Christian kids could have played, the result would not have been as awesome. I guess my point is that we need to let God use us in whatever capacity and we need to stop limiting Him.

SW,
I would like to comment on your post, but time doesn't allow for it right now. Maybe later this evening. :wavey:

 

[standingfirminChrist]

Sitting there and saying if you dont accept Christ you cannot come into my home is ludicrous (for lack of a better word).

Not according to a Better Word... The Word of God.

The Word of God declares:
2 John 1:10 If there come any unto you, and bring not this doctrine, receive him not into your house, neither bid him God speed:

I also find it amazing that you say these women 'won't even let Jesus in,' but that you are able to get through.

If they won't let Christ in, what are you reaching them with?

The Christian is not to invite anyone into their home that may teach them a doctrine contrary to the Word of God.

 

[jilphn1022]

Looking at my post #102 shows that I am not guilty...

Some of us can multi task:type:

of being a multi-task person.

This post started out about a tv show " Wife Swap".

I have read most of these post and this is my conclusion.
( I am mindful that lurker could read what we are saying and most importantly the Lord sees all what we say,write and think.)

According to the Bible is marriage or being single in accordance to God's will?
What does the Bible say about divorce or remarriage?IF they are sins does God forgive those who confess such sins to Him? And would God expect the forgiver to go back to their previous mate( who cheated on them or abused them?Does God allow divorce although we know that is not His choice?

I am sure all of you know what the Bible says about the above questions.


Late Mrs.Ruth Graham was asked if she ever considered divorcing her husband
she quickly replied "No" murder yes":laugh:


You can tell that those of us who are in a good marriage relationship want all to have that kind of marriage too.And it seems to be showing in the post who want
all of us to avoid divorce at any cost.And this is a good feeling to know we want
this happiness for us all.

Divorce is painful,but I have read on this post and know personally several who have been divorced and they move on with a mature and postive attitude. I wonder if I would be among this group if itever happened to me?


We are sorry that any of you have been divorced,but I have been pleased how you are not being bitter with the offending mate, but are serving the Lord.

For a concise statemt it would be :
God is looking for
good and faithful servant. I believe that this is true of all of you in which God is well pleased.

 

[DrRandyGrace]

Is there no end to this post? Please, someone, put it out of my misery!