So you're using a pagan king who oppressed Israel ("trying out" several women to choose his queen, and all other sorts of wickedness) to illustrate God and prop up your whole argument?

(Like you just went and fished for another prooftext, and this one is worse than all the others) No wonder you believe the way you do. This type of tearing of passages and phrases out of their contexts is presisely the problem here!
May I ask, what exact "problem" has God "solved" in your case? I ask, not to say that God doesn't solve problems, but that people flippantly say things like this to the sufferers, and even dole out proof-texts to this effect, but what exactly are you saying? Especially when it is turned into a judgment to hell for supposedly "rejecting Christ" for someone who has not taken your positive attitude towards their pain and goes on and commits a sin they cannot undo.
Are you going to claim God's "solution" is some so-called "happiness" or "joy" (the usual formulaic answer). Well, that will not mean much to anyone, because you can claim anything, and we cannot see into your heart. So you could be miserable and on the verge of suicide yourself, and we would never know it. Yet because you have not done it, you can judge someone else, and then claim God "solved" all your problems (even though they remain), and someone else is full of pride and probably lost if they don't have the same attitude. And you have not seemed to be the most happy or joyful person around here. Your whole modus-operandi has been a typical "old-line" fundamentalist who is harsly critical of
everything the modern Church does (music, etc). I may have come off just as critical (in defense). But then I also do not throw out this nebulous "happiness" platitude to the suffering and judge them by it.
Many people preach this stuff, and juge people struggling with pain or sin as "carnal", etc. but when you read their books, tapes, etc. (they are SELLING), they even admit that God does NOT just "wipe away all pain" and make you "content" when you just "pray" or "trust", or whatever; but rather it is a "daily struggle". LaHaye calls it "like pushing a boulder uphill for the rest of your life" right after suggesting that all fear or anger are just "sins" one should simply "throw away", like it is that easy. So you all are judging people for not making some easy "decision" to "just trust" Christ, but then, it is really a whole "process" that is not that easy at all. But then the whole basis for your harsh judgments fall, then. How dare you look down on someone who has not made all the "good decisions" you have? And that is assuming you really are in the good place you try to put forth to us.
I already explained Paul's "thorn in the flesh". We take those passages and tell people they must be happy about their pain, or they are full of pride (like we claim we are "happy"). But that takes these passages out of context, where the early Christians suffered specifically for Christ. I was also thinking of responding to Claudia's new "Others may, you may not" thread, because I too read that tract years ago, and where it at one point gave me some sort of comfort, when I read it again, I saw that it was assuming that every bad thing that happens to us, or does not go the way we want is God "doing" it for some unknown reason. But that is not what those passages say. So to judge sufferers of just any
mundane problems on this, and accuse them of rejecting Christ, or saying He is not "in control", is stepping way beyond scriptural boundaries.
This then has God as the cause of all sin and problems in the world (like someone injuring you, birth defects etc), and becomes almost like an extension of Calvinism beyond the issue of salvation to daily life. Like in that issue, we appeal to "sovereignty" and speculate on why God is doing something "unpleasant to our fallen minds", and tell people "it is above our comprehension", when
we have already gone beyond scripture into the unknown. That is not how we are told to comfort one another! Show some compassion, if a person is so down on life that they consider resorting to suicide; rather then boasting of your "good attitude", and how basically you are saved unlike them because you don't commit a "deadly sin".
(As I say on my page dealing with our cold, trite formulaic responses to suffering:
http://members.aol.com/etb700/abundant.html But here, "faith", which was the vehicle through which we trust God for
salvation, is taken and applied to something it
never was directly intended for. —"
Trusting God" now becomes a philosophy of positive attitudes in life with some unknown "good" being what we trust Him for)
Again, pain is assumed to be "what is best". But that is not what God's word says, so you cannot say the person is "saying" any such thing! Likewise, "I know my needs better than you"; but what are "needs"? Another word tossed around.
Again, in order to ask what problem God solves, we have to ask what man's main problem (or "needs") is in the first place? The main problem is not a "bad attitude" towards pain (which needs some "joy" you don't even really feel but only "believe by faith" to cure it). You would think that it was, they way people seem to believe this one fault alone has the power to nullify salvation! Man's problem was his lost condition, and God "solved" that by sending Jesus to save those who believe on Him by faith in His substitutionary work. THAT brings the "joy" that one is freed from the curse of the Law. No scripture says this makes all other kinds of "pain" not matter, though some do teach putting it into eternal perspective. You basically revoke this by turning it into "faith that He will make your pain not matter, and you will have 'joy' regardless" whereby he he is condemned by the Law regardless of his faith in Christ [for salvation], and thus he can NOT "Trust Christ" to save him unless he gets the "real" "faith" right!
Again, this is not to condone suicide, but our entire orientation in confronting this as well as all suffering in general is way off. (It is easy to say, makes us feel like we have given a final biblical answer, and even sells teaching books, though!) It is attitudes like this from Christians (who are shaefully taken on a reputation of being very cold and unsympathetic) that be be the final straw that will push a person over to something like suicide. If all God's only word to a suffering person is that his pain is "the best" for him, and if he doesn't like it, he is full of pride, and abominable and going to hell, then what's the use?